I have a 3 page, 2 column, bullet point list of things I'm looking for in a husband, (to be fair I have 4 pages and counting for what I'd like to be as a woman and a wife) some points are entirely trivial, for example that he like 4x4 trucks or can drive standard. Others are more significant and have a biblical and spiritual basis. These are the unbend-able requirements for what kind of man my future husband will be.
#1 That he first and foremost be a Christian, in word and in deed, committed to his walk with the Lord, who grounds himself in sound doctrine.(2 Corinthians 6:14, Titus 1:9; 2:1) Every quality that is important to me in a future husband is already covered in this one requirement because any man who has fully committed his life to Christ and surrenders every area of his life to the Lord will already be developing these values.
#2 Embraces and welcomes the possibility of children in our lives. (Psalm 127:3-5)
#3 Priest - is prepared to lead our family spiritually in our walk with the Lord, this means that he will lead a daily family devotional and that he is committed to staying one day ahead in his preparations. (Ephesians 6:4)
#4 Prophet - prayerfully seeks an understanding of what the Lord has for our family's mission for the Kingdom and a vision for how we are to carry out that mission.
#5 Protector - has the wisdom and the fortitude to say no when and how it needs to be said to guard us from negative influences and can explain his logic and reasoning that the children and I might learn to make better decisions for ourselves. (Ephesians 5:15-17, Ephesians 6:4)
#6 Provider - has desire to provide financially, spiritually, emotionally and physically for our family. Has an understanding of the importance and an appreciation for my role as stay at home wife and mother and that my calling is to be serving my family in this way. (Proverbs 14:1, Proverbs 31:10-31)
The 4P's, Priest, Prophet, Protector and Provider, are from Dr. Voddie Baucham Jr.'s book "What He Must Be .. If He Wants To Marry My Daughter" I got the book for my Dad at Father's Day one year and have found it great for myself as a tool to refine and define what I'm looking for in a potential mate.
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14
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